The urge of that unhappy feeling is literally the most unacceptable feeling we ever feel and to come out of it, we do not know the answer nor we have key but we still believe in the destiny because our consciousness always tells us to stay positive and not only after we know every thing will be alright but we need to end this void not today but tomorrow for sure.
We try to read books, listen to music, portray different characters of our own different mindset with the same people we roam around and if not we do in front of mirror and still does not do that, we find ourselves in other things especially in the evening coffee we have in the solitude in some cafe while holding the book not just pretending to read but actually reading it and trying to make life a little more sensible and sometimes we just take therapy.
And not just therapy, we try to know other people whom we met in a strange period of time, by knowing that person we find our answers very smoothly not by what they did we should not do that but by knowing things from the optimistic nature of theirs.
It is totally dependable on if you want to heal then but you learn a lot from them and it makes you weigh a little lighter than before. You feel to have that aura inside you that you think to feel you should have to repaid for the prioritized things that you have invested in a lot. And the repayment not for the actual feelings you need back from the people to whom you have given but the way you were you want that spark back, a kind of repayment you need from yourself.
Yes, get that thing back, yes, be that person again, yes, do the things you always did in a mischievous form, basically we need to love ourselves back, we need to feel that being hateful is not wrong and when someone hates us more the better we know ourselves.
The most hateful thing about a human when they broke, you know what that is no, not living in solitude but they became silent, they became numb, they stop ranting about the things of about what is teasing them. Sometimes it is necessary too but most of the time it is not! Losing yourself is a part of life, even if counts a break up too but you lose yourself because that person means a lot to them.
And when you detach from a person you does not detaching you are doing more than that, you are pouring your heart by crying so hard from inside that you does not care what is going inside and for a bit you do not want to show the tears to anyone. And this happens because of that one person who broke the heart, if they does not care you think why would anyone be caring.
And when one meets with such person, life does not seems so critical, it seems more deranged. Because you are older than them you have seen it, experienced it, cried your heart out of it but they are experiencing for the first time and it kills you seeing them like this.
You does not want to see them broke, the one who is mischievous, the one who has a habit to put their pretty tantrums in front and nobody finds it beautiful but you as you know how things work but sometimes what you want them how to feel in the moment you does not know how to work.
No amount of words, no amount of sympathy works here just a simple hug works the most. But you are far away from them to give them a hug so, it is better they shall process it all alone. As when someone is alone they process it stronger, calmer, soother, and with maturity. It is the part of the nature of human how they reacts, how they surpass things, how they gather along once again, these are the emotions that we feel in a specific situation but learn when we need to.
But also forget if we start to feel depressed and stressed. At that moment we does not want to process it all explanation, questionable answers, or even acquire peace, we want to show anger not just any anger but desiring anger that was deep buried down there inside our heart. That is why when the heart breaks it does not sounds and becomes so numb we act like a stupid creature.
All we need to remind ourselves after the number of experiences are IN THIS LIFE ALL WE HAVE A CONNECTION THAT WE MAKE. Heard this in a web-series that I really liked. But it is true, as we think it will happen once or twice then it will not happen again but our whole life is an act of making connections and letting go. We have to be so strong of us to what feeling we are consuming with what person and what we are letting out.
And yes, it is possible for being so strong like this even without breaking your heart, hopes, expectations and importantly your life. And the more you will understand the more it will be easier for everyone to be so surreal everywhere and be experienced even without breaking.