From day one since I have been in shape to the day, I destroyed my shape after being affected by the mental stress, dilemma, and depression. It was hard to be in shape. But when you see someone so dedicated, so fulfilled, and thrilled to exercise, being ready as a man, you know they are living the best life. One can either respect it or ignore it, and that totally depends on the person, as they vary and why.
Most of the time, I found people ignored this fact: to be in shape is the true aspect of life that gives them a unique identity, and unlike what they demand, they can have a break-free life through it. And those people who respect being in shape, they find themselves in the tension of becoming a warrior rather than being happy. But who will tell them the mentality of being a warrior is correlated to being happy?
A warrior is always happy and makes others happy too. Besides their true identity, they chose to enjoy what they do. And when they do it without any tension, that is where they become a warrior. Hence, you do not need to take any tension to be a warrior and just adapt the mentality of them. Fight as much as you can with your subconscious mind; give your state a break and become who you really want to be. Your shape will automatically come back to you, especially when you lost it at your lowest times.
When you think of being in shape, do not ever think of the right time. When you start adapting yourself to who you are, on the positive side, you will know the time has come to start working on it. And realizing the right time, it would always come to you in an inappropriate situation where you will find yourself indulged in the beginnings of doing something pleasurable and give respect to the middle part.
What is the middle part? Allow me to explain. When you suffer a loss and are deranged psychologically, you start to lose yourself more and more into the grief, give yourself the amount of pain, and stop believing yourself. But when you respect this situation, you will understand slowly the situations of the pointless life and why it is happening. And when you make yourself ready to cope with these situations, that is the middle part.
Every situation has three big parts:
THE BEGINNING: Where you will suffer a huge loss that you think is uncontrollable or it will shred your life to pieces and you never will be alright.
THE MIDDLE: When your body starts to react to the grief, the pain, the anxieties, the chest pain, and whatnot. You will get the sense that you are in pain and need to resolve this via therapy or something that you know you will overcome this with.
THE END: When you know, it will stay with you your whole life, but you cannot do anything about it. But that does not mean you will stay in pain; you have to see both sides of the coin.
And the end only come when you respect the middle and unlock your acceptance. It is hard; it is not a thing to do in a day. You can feel it whenever you can just never stop believing. Mental dizziness is the worst and produces brain fog and gives you the lowest of phases, but it will always be alright when you are ready to go ahead with this.
Always figure out what is wrong and never let yourself feel the pain unnecessarily. Surely you will become so stubborn that you think you deserve only pain and give yourself one. But life is not like that at a time; either it would be you or the pain. You have to choose a thing between these two. And that will decide whether you would be ready or not, and if yes, then for how long you will be.
Prepare yourself for the worst, but never do such things that give you situations like this. Before the beginning, it is you and only you who decide to be normal again, and that is fine too if you are not. You will feel guilty about the choices you made, and yes, you will define that time as a guilt when the situation happens, but what you are and who you are never change, and we all are spiritually connected with our soul and with others’ souls that we feel so much sorrow for them and for ourselves.
The time for unlocking that spiritual connection never comes; you always have it, and it is always unlocked in your mind. Just have to look behind it to know what your capabilities are.
Forgive yourself for every pain that you give to yourself and to others. Forgive yourself for every pain you receive from yourself and from others, and start to see positive things around. Rather, it would be meetings, work, being a creative artist, or anything, and just let peace come to you.